Tuesday, 16 April 2013

When I grow up I want to be a marriage counsellor...

...I know these people are highly trained individuals, and I don't mean to be flip, but the idea of a job where you basically just nod, smile, then swivel your head and say "And how do you feel about that D/S?" sounds great to me.

Although the neck swivelling - there must be a genuine risk of RSI with all that going on.

Maybe I mean to be a little bit flip. 

Please don't take any notice, I'm just grumpy.  I had to sit through a five hour meeting today and have lost the will to live a little bit.  So, couples therapy.  First observation: they don't let you sit close to each other.  We've been in two different rooms now and in both cases there was a whacking great table separating the chairs they allowed us to sit in.  And tissues.  Always boxes of tissues within easy reach.  Which is good because I cry a lot.  I'm a crier.  I cry when I'm sad, when I'm happy, when I'm angry, when I'm tired - it's my default emotional reaction.  I worry about my hydration levels, I really do.

But we came away with some things to work on, which is good.  One of my goals is to wholeheartedly commit to a healthier lifestyle - for the sake of my physical and mental health and one of D's is to support me in that.  It's not that he hasn't been supportive in the past, you understand, but we both have a habit of leading each other astray on occasion...Also, I respond well to pats on the head and bribery both of which he has promised to deliver.  Pats on the head in the comment section will also be gratefully received.

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  1. I hear ya on the crying, sister. Drop of a soggy hat.

    It sound good that you've got some positivity from the counseling - even though you can nod perfectly well yourself and ask D how he feels about it! x

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    1. Soooo glad it's not just me!

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  2. *PAT*

    Well done lovely - you are fab x

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    1. Thank you - gratefully received!

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  3. Ha! But I hope all that swivelling does ultimately help.

    Px

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    1. I hope so too - I'd hate for it all to be in vain...ouch!...

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  4. Yep, I cry like a baby and often. Cried in that telly programme for the world to see. It is an unusual day if no tears.

    I'm so pleased that you are both doing the Relate thing. I tried over the years to persuade D to engage but, as everything was always my fault, why would he need therapy??! He did say he would go and even went to one session on his own once I'd made the break but, by then, for us, far too little and too late. And yes, our counsellor was fully signed up to the nod-and-how-do-you-feel-about-that? school!!

    All the best with both the counselling and the healthier lifestyle.

    Lesley xx

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